The Neighborhood Sexologist

mar⋅riage

–noun
1.     The social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.

4.   A relationship in which two people have pledged themselves to each other in the manner of a husband and wife.

Everything below is opinionated, I am not married, have never been married, and probably wont be married anytime soon. But is my opinion necessarily wrong, of course not! Marriage………. isn’t what it use to be!! Speaking as a guy who has been through this topic more than once, it struck me today that some people of this age really don’t understand what marriage really is or how to go about being married. A friend of mine was searching on Craigslist, and he said he was looking for women, and I thought it was a joke until he sent me a link, or advertisement of various women, looking for “friends” or lovers. Now h’m not knocking  internet fating, or meeting someone online,  there have really been some relationships that I know of on a first hand accounts where people met online and they were really in true love and eventually got married. The difference between that and what I saw tonight is that a lot of these people, women and men, are just outright begging

Read more

This is a list of books that I have owned at one point in time and or have read and studied. Believe me they are good reading for anyone who wants to study up on having better sex, and/or find new ways to reach better sexual satisfaction. I provided links for the exact book I have read, but if you don’t think these will work for you, by all means find something that will.

Read more

Hello all, and Happy New Year!!!!!!!! Sorry for the delay been a ruff holiday season. But hey what’s new. So the other day I was just sitting around playing on my computer and listening to music, when I turned around and caught a glimpse of the tv. There was some made for tv movie on, and whatever was happening, there was a guy and this lady arguing. At first thought, I wanted to see if i could determine what the argument was about jus by looking at their body language since the tv was muted. What I concluded from the few seconds i took in was that the couple was arguing about something that the woman wanted and the guy didn’t, and whatever it was he had the look that he was somewhat fed up.

So I grab the remote and unmute the tv to listen in. Apparently the couple was married and they were having an argument because she felt that her husband didn’t show her the same level of affection that he use to. From what I take from it the guy had an important time demanding job, doctor or something. But the argument was one-sided in my opinion, as most are on that subject. What I mean by this is that a woman or your significant other will want you to do something, and you do it, and then all of a sudden your doing too much of it, and they don’t want you to do it anymore. Or they want you to change. Or they want you to do it to make yourself “happy” but not to do it so that it bothers them being happy.

Read more

There are those relationships that have an open and free understanding about sex. What I mean by this is that when sex is wanted, it’s given and not halted by either party. Honestly I can only imagine these relationships because I’ve never been in one. As I stated on one of my previous blogs I believe sex is part of our bodily functions. And as Jeffo said is part of our instinct. I don’t like to deny my instinct, but because sex and masturbation are two different things there’s the possibility of running into that brick wall aka, the infamous “No”.

Read more

Yes as they say you are what you eat, and what you intake in your body can affect your sex life, especially when it comes to oral sex. Giving or receiving, oral sex is subject to the natural taste of your partner, and depending on how their day has went, that taste may differ from day to day. Read more

To most the love glove can be bothersome. And I don’t know about what they are doing, but for me when I have used a condom, it didn’t take more than a few seconds to put on. I mean come on, OK its in my jeans or whatever, go get it and put it on. AID and STD’s don’t sound fun and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Me and my girlfriend have been together for about to be 5years and I remember when we first had sex, both of us stopped and took time for a condom. Even after we were both tested for AID and STD’s. Read more

There are pivotal times throughout the year that have special meaning. From personal to national holidays, they all present a special occasion that allows you to spend that time that your normally wouldn’t with family and friends. But that’s not the only thing holidays and special occasions are good for, what about all the sex? Special occasions usually always end with sex. Its like a normal end of day, or in my or many cases, an all day practice. And with the holidays fast approaching, nothing makes me happier than to unwrap one of my favorites presents of all time. Holiday Sex! Read more

Spur of the moment and faster than a western quick draw, quickies are a good way to help you get off in the shortest time. Of course you can fondle in public places, but nothing gets the job done better than doing the actual act of having sex. Quickies can be a masterful skill if used correctly and timed right. The thrill can be more fun and exciting than you ever thought possible…………as long as your quick. Read more

There are plenty of times where as a guy I want sex. And are all of those times perfect? Of course not, but the urge and need to have sex is the same as any other bodily function. If you are hungry, you eat, if your sleepy, you sleep. And I believe if you want some sex, you should be able to have it. But here lies the conundrum! Every bodily function you have is created to operate independently as part of your body, it doesn’t relay on anything but time and opportunity, every urge you have is because of the bodies need. But when we get to sex its treated differently, with sex we have to include another person to complete the act.(Unless we are talking about masturbation, which is a completely different topic).

Read more